This YouTube video by Tom Bilyeu lists tips for getting better sleep at night. Sleep is an undervalued component of health, and effects one’s life and career. It regulates our hormones and metabolism. Bilyeu has compiled clips of interviews for this comprehensive guide.
Get more sunlight: Spend 30 minutes outside in the morning.
Set aside 90 minutes without technology before bed.
Exercise 5 minutes in the morning.
Make sleep a priority.
Avoid eating 3 hours before bed.
Reduce stress; try daily meditation, don’t eat for 45 minutes after waking up
People who are falsely accused tend to get angry–which makes others believe that they are indeed guilty. Those are the highly frustrating results of a new study from researchers at Harvard. If you’re an employer, you need to watch out for your own instincts, which could lead you to assume an innocent person has done something wrong. And, importantly, you should use this information to temper your own reactions if you’re ever falsely accused yourself.
In a study titled “Anger Damns the Innocent,” researchers from Harvard Business School and the University of Toronto conducted six studies to determine how people react to being falsely accused, and how those reactions affect others’ perceptions of their guilt or innocence. In one experiment, they randomly assigned 230 subjects to either an easy or difficult editing task and told them they’d be paid a $2 bonus for doing it correctly. The easy task, which most participants got right, was to capitalize the first and last letters of every paragraph in the text. The difficult task, which most got wrong, was to find and remove every adverb in the text. After they were done, all participants got the same message, ostensibly from a research assistant saying their answer was believed to be wrong, indicating that they hadn’t been paying proper attention and therefore the $2 bonus might be withheld.
For most of those who’d done the easy task, this was a false accusation, whereas it was basically true for those who’d had to do the hard task. Those who were falsely accused reported feeling angrier, and to claim they were being unfairly assessed. I think even without a study, most of us would recognize this as a normal human reaction–when we are accused of something we didn’t do, we get really peeved. I still remember the hissy fit I pitched in my veterinarian’s office when I was accused of–and billed for–being a no-show at an appointment I had actually rescheduled.
But here’s the problem. While getting ticked off is a normal human reaction to a false accusation, it will make others believe you are guilty. The researchers tested this across four studies. In the first three, participants watched clips from a television show called Judge Faith, or read a description of a courtroom proceeding, or an account of a man accused of cheating on his girlfriend, or a man accused of stealing from his employer. In each case, they got to see or read about the accused person’s reaction. Every time, participants judged those who reacted angrily as being guiltier than those who reacted with calm. The only people who seemed guiltier to these subjects were those who pleaded the fifth in court and refused to say anything at all.
Even the pros get it wrong
Then they performed a similar experiment on 136 professionals whose jobs ought to give them some insight into guilt and innocence–law enforcement professionals, fraud investigators, lawyers, and similar professions. Even they thought those who reacted with anger–and those who refused to answer questions at all–were likely to be guilty. They thought those who reacted calmly were most likely to be innocent.
It’s a sad state of affairs when even trained professionals think reacting calmly to an accusation makes you innocent and reacting angrily makes you guilty, when the opposite is likely to be true. But what can you do about it?
For starters, when you ask an employee–or anyone else–if they’ve done something wrong and they respond with anger, don’t assume that they did it. “We find that such anger is an invalid cue of guilt and is instead a valid cue of innocence,” the researchers write. Most people–even professionals whose jobs require them to parse the guilty from the innocent–use emotional cues to determine whether someone is guilty. More often than not, following these emotional cues will lead you to the wrong conclusion. This tallies with existing literature, which suggests that most people are really bad at knowing whether someone is lying or telling the truth.
There’s a small audience of Inc.com readers who receive a daily text from me with a self-care or motivational micro-challenge or idea. Often they text me back and we wind up in an ongoing conversation. (Interested in joining? You can learn more here.) Some of them have told me about times when they were accused of something they didn’t do, and how hard it is to stay calm when that happens.
So next time you accuse someone of doing something wrong and they blow their stack, give that person the benefit of the doubt. And if you’re falsely accused yourself, whatever else you do, try not to react with anger. It will just make people think you’re guilty.
Jonathan Pageau, the host of The Symbolic World, recently decried Kevin Smith’s Masters of the Universe: Revelation Netflix show for perverting masculinity.
In the introduction of his video, Pageau details what he will be addressing, “It might seem like a very strange thing to talk about, this kids show, but I think it’s important to understand and to see one of the prime examples of a strategy that I’ve noticed in popular culture which is of course using masculinity against itself.”
He elaborated, “Using the capacity, the tendency men have to sacrifice themselves for the world in order to then use it as a trick to replace the masculine with the feminine.”
Diving into the subject of the video proper, Pageau first notes that He-Man “really is an image of hyper-masculinity.”
He then goes on to reiterate that He-Man is used to replace the masculine with the feminine. Pageau explains, “It is not surprising that that very character would be used to play out the narrative that I’ve talked about in so many of my videos which is the replacing of the masculine character, a male character with a female character.”
“Of course the female character has masculine characteristics and is supposed to be a warrior and a badass and a combatant and all of that. But nonetheless it really is a kind of stepping aside and being replaced,” he asserts.
Pageau then lists out a number of other films and TV shows where this is and has taken place, “This happened of course in the Wolverine movie (Logan). It happened in so many different instances in the past several years. And it’s also going to happen a lot more. You need to get ready for it. It was happening also in the Loki series. It is going to happen again with all these fictional characters.”
As for why they are doing this Pageau claims, “The reason why they’re doing this is very simple. It’s because this is our generation. That is those of us that are now in our 40s, we are the peak of the generation, you could say.”
He elaborates, “We have reached kind of peak influence in terms of culture and in terms of what will be the cultural narrative. The people that are my age that in their mid 40s, they are the ones who are running the show in terms of TV shows, in terms of movies, in terms of all of this. This is the generation that is now running the cultural narration.”
“And so it makes sense the battle of the cultural narrative would happen in these franchises that represent our own childhood whether it be Marvel, whether it be something as stupid as He-Man, whether it be Ghostbusters, all of these franchises are the ones that we had as children that were part of our memories and the memories that formed our perception of masculinity, our perception of storytelling. And not it is in this sphere that the battle is happening,” Pageau asserts.
Pageau then recaps the first episode of the show stating, “In the story, what happens is that the character He-Man, in the very first episode, dies. And after he dies, he is then replaced by the female warrior, I think her name is Teela. And she pairs up with the female bad guy and the entire story is about them, is about their arc, they become the main characters.”
“At the end of the series and the last episodes, what we show is we show again the main character, He-Man or Prince Adam, die in order to save the world. And this is where the game is being played,” he continues.
Pageau reiterates again, “I’ve mentioned many times that one of the strategies is gong to be to use the masculine tendency to sacrifice yourself in order to remove the masculine and so what it does is it actually leads the character up to a point which is really a messianic point, but it’s used as a trick to then toss the main character aside, the masculine character aside, and then replace him with a feminine character because the future is female.”
He continues, “And then of course there’s a bunch of gaslighting, there’s a bunch of saying, ‘No, this is not the point. That’s not the point.’ But if it only happened once or twice in a few stories and a few franchises, you could think that… Obviously that story can exist, but when it becomes a pattern, a systematic pattern then we have to look at it in a different way.”
Pageau then plays a clip of Smith explaining what happens in the first episode. The clip begins with Smith stating, “How we do it in episode one is he gives his f***ing life. He sacrifices his life. Now, you know, I’ve been accused of lying for saying that He-Man does no stepping aside. If He-Man giving his life for the entire universe is stepping aside then Tony Stark stepped aside, Jesus Christ stepped aside.”
“It’s a messianic moment and if you follow classic literature, the heroes arc, it’s where the hero has to go eventually. You have to sacrifice your life for some greater cause,” Smith says as the clip ends.
Pageau then analyzes Smith’s comments saying, “You can really see that he has understood the pattern. He understands the story pattern of the Christian knight of the Christian hero because he names Christ and Tony Stark, which was really a Christic image. He names this pattern as the one that he basically used to create his He-Man story. The one of self-sacrifice as the ultimate arc of the hero.”
He adds, “But then instead of having a resurrection instead of having a resurrection not necessarily in the character but maybe in another character, it is definitely used to toss aside the masculine character and replace him with a feminine character. Now, that’s what happens in this show.”
While Pageau notes that this pattern of storytelling and strategy is going “to get worse and get crazier,” he also sees it as an opportunity to tell better stories.
He explains, “It is also an opportunity for us who are willing and capable of telling better stories to reflip the story. To be able to present a return of the king story which will be more satisfying than the one that is presented here because it is truer to the divine pattern. It’s truer to the pattern of the return of Christ at the end of time.”
“Even in the story of Christ there is the resurrection, but there’s also the return of the king at the very end. Of the divine Logos coming to judge the living and the dead. And of course this is in a smaller way we can tell that story, like the story of Aragorn, like the story of the return of King Richard that we find in traditional stories,” he posits.
In concluding his video, Pageau explains why this perversion of masculinity and replacing masculine characters with feminine characters is a horrible thing.
He says, “This is a horrible thing not just because of feminism or whatever, but because these feminine characters are actually not feminine. These female characters are masculine and therefore it ends up being, as I’ve said many times, a diminishing of the actual feminine and the casting aside of the actual feminine because there’s no room for those characters anymore.
“And we end up having this hyper masculine world which is also inhabited by people with breasts, but are hyper masculine at the same time,” he finishes.
“Executive function” is a term for the brain’s ability to organize work and initiate it. Executive dysfunction is a problem for people with ADD, ADHD, learning disabilities, or who have suffered a stroke. If you have been diagnosed with one of these conditions, you should understand you’re NOT to blame for being lazy or disorganized. The following video by Marta Rose presents strategies and hacks for coping with executive dysfunction. Below the video is a link to her YouTube page with resources.
Organize your space with the Marie Kondo method: Get rid of anything that doesn’t serve you, and store other things vertically. Executive dysfunction causes people to forget about things they don’t see often, so a lot of waste builds up.
Plan your schedule using a bullet journal: the bullet journal was invented by an ADHD patient. It’s a type of planner with bulleted to-do lists organized by months and days. You can index each list at the front of the journal.
Initiate tasks: have a work companion, or imagine someone is watching you do a project. By having a real or imagined companion, you’ll feel more accountable and be spurred into action.
Break tasks into small sections: Another challenge when initiating tasks is taking in the size of those tasks. Break them into stages and handle them one at a time.
Emotional Control: People with ADD and ADHD have above average emotional intelligence and sensitivity. When society uses the term “emotional control,” they’re showing discomfort with the expressiveness of ADD patients. For their part, patients can practice mindfulness and meditation. They can also set boundaries with people who judge and bully them.
Outsource: People with ADD will never be good at certain things, and we should accept that. Those things can be left to others, and ADD patients should embrace the tasks they ARE good at.
This YouTube video by DoctorRamani discusses narcissists and how they seize power in organizations, families, and other groups. She refers to the old saying, “in the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king.” In this sense, normal people are modest and admit to the limits of their knowledge, but the fake confidence of narcissists convinces others to trust their leadership.
Narcissists are good at convincing us they’re on the ball and are better at their jobs than anyone else. Normal people don’t question this because they’ve been conditioned to doubt themselves. They may have been raised by narcissists, or been abused by teachers or bullies at school.
Dr. Ramani describes how families can be wrecked financially because a narcissistic member took control. Then she moves on to government and politics, how politicians and bureaucrats triangulate their way into positions of power. The way we combat government corruption is learning the ways of narcissism. I have made this point repeatedly on this blog, and I’m gratified to hear a licensed professional like the doctor make the connection as well. Dr. Ramani ends with the warning to never assume that a person with authority deserves that authority. Never passively give up your autonomy.
Speaking personally, I learned to stand up for myself when I simultaneously practiced martial arts and made a relationship with God. In martial arts, one learns to trust their gut during meditation. In the Bible, God often empowers human beings with his spirit, and they accomplish great things through faith. When I realized that Western religion and Eastern philosophy were describing the same phenomenon, my life changed. When you open yourself to God’s spirit, you’ll feel a warm sensation and experience inspiration. This is God giving you guidance you can trust, far better than what narcissists spew out. This is the source of true confidence.
This YouTube video by Psych2Go offers six unexpected signs you’re on the right path in life. Not all of these may apply to you at the present moment, but you can learn to take advantage of the ones that do. In these times when the U.S. government is compromised and the economy is struggling, take stock of your own situation, practice gratitude, and be open to any possibilities. By showing kindness to yourself and others, you can help save society.
You’re forming quality relationships with others.
You’re content and feel at peace.
Things are getting tough. When you face challenges, but you’re willing to take them on rather than run, that’s a good sign.
You think less about the past, and more about the future.
You’re mentally satisfied, even if you’re physically exhausted.
Everything seems to align in your favor. This comes with having an open mind, and having an opportunity, rather than a crisis thought process.